The FIRST you'll trust without a shame threshold
There's something no one talks about, yet it's the measuring stick for the depth of every human relationship: the shame threshold.
person Dorottya Nagy-Jozsa PCC today 2025-09-25Remember when everyone was talking about quiet quitting? Well, forget it. We've moved on to something way worse, only nobody's noticed yet. Plus it doesn't even have a name, but that's never stopped us before – at least we get to name it.
Welcome to the Back-Sitting Era
Your employees are showing up. Where you asked them to. As many days as you asked. They sit at their desks. They log into Zoom calls. But nobody's really there. Not really.
They're back-sitting.
Back-sitting is when people don't stay at their jobs because they want to, not because they're committed, but because they're terrified. They're sitting with their backs to the future, not looking forward, not steering. Just sitting. Waiting. Holding on.
And before you start rolling your eyes thinking this is just another made-up HR buzzword, let me hit you with some numbers that should make you very uncomfortable. You know, if you're not sitting with your back turned too ;)
In 2024, disengaged workers cost the global economy $438 billion. Not million. Billion. With nine zeros.
And:
Translation? Your people are trapped. And they know it.
How Did We Get Here?
Five years ago, we were living through the Great Resignation. People were hopping from job to job, weighing offers, climbing the ladder by switching companies. It paid to move.
Not anymore.
For the first time in the last 10 years, staying pays the same as switching companies. Those who stayed got 4.6% raises, while job-hoppers only earned 0.2% more.
The golden age of job-hopping is over. Plus we're scared, too. All of us.
So what are people doing? They're staying. But they're not committing. They're not looking forward. They're back-sitting.
Why This Is Worse Than Anything We've Seen Before
At least with quiet quitting, people were still somewhat present. They did the minimum, sure, but they were looking ahead – even if ahead meant toward the exit.
Back-sitters aren't looking anywhere. They:
They just EXIST.
And here's where it really hurts: 40% of workers will need significant retraining by 2030 to remain employable as AI reshapes the job market.
But you know what? Back-sitters aren't retraining themselves. They're not preparing. They're not looking ahead.
They're sitting there, backs to the future, watching their skills become obsolete in real-time, too paralyzed by fear to do anything about it.
What This Means for Organizations
Think you have a retention problem? You don't. You have a back-sitting problem.
Your retention numbers might look great on paper. People are staying! Yay! They're not engaged. Not productive. Not innovative. And definitely not preparing for what's coming.
And what's coming – AI transformation, skill obsolescence, organizational restructuring – requires people who are looking forward, not backward.
So What Do We Do?
Honestly? I don't have all the answers. Hmm, I've never actually written that before. But what I do know is that it's incredibly harmful to act like everything's fine just because people aren't quitting.
We urgently need to stop celebrating high retention rates and start asking ourselves harder questions.
Like, if there's a back-sitting epidemic, and this clearly (yes, I mean clearly in my opinion, but if you disagree, we're waiting for guest bloggers at info@y2y.hu :) ) has fear of the unknown paralyzing a portion of the workforce as its primary cause.
The same people, for example, that we don't train mandatorily, because we've been saying for ages that it's stupid. Is it really stupid? Your AI training, for instance – if you don't make it mandatory, how and especially WHEN will those who've been sitting with their backs to everything for nearly three whole years start moving along their grief curves?
And unlike quiet quitting, job-hopping, or any other workplace trend we've seen, this won't fix itself. It's going to get worse.
Because the longer people sit with their backs to the future, the harder it will be for them to turn around.
There's something no one talks about, yet it's the measuring stick for the depth of every human relationship: the shame threshold.
person Dorottya Nagy-Jozsa PCC today 2025-09-25Thirty. That's it. That's how many years we've been arguing in our profession about whether leaders are born or made. And you know what? We're basically in the same place where we started. Except we've spent millions on leadership development programs that still make us cringe when we see our boss in the hallway.