WHO WOULD YOU GO ON A SPACE JOURNEY WITH FROM YOUR TEAM?

I'm not saying that an AHA-moment is guaranteed, but it's certain that either your forehead will turn red, or you will see a lot of facepalms. And afterward, good luck escaping from sentences starting with 'should have'.Trust is a terribly abstract, intangible thing, which has been researched in many ways, it's worth spending a few days on it, whether as a leader, developer, or just as a person, to delve into its intricacies. But there's a fundamental aspect that somehow always brings deeper thoughts than the rest.

Trust is situation-dependent.

If I asked you to pick someone from your team whom you'd gladly ask for tips on where to go to the theater in November, who would it be? The example is also good because it shows the fragility of trust more beautifully than a marriage, if you ever slept through a performance, or sat for 100 minutes in secondhand embarrassment, you surely won't ask the person who gave you the tip again. I didn't either :)

Now, when you have your theater-tip guy, let me ask one more question.

If you had to go on a one-year space journey with one of your team members, who would you choose?

I've never received an answer to this question like theater-Joci.

The answer is almost always very clear, very quick, and I don't know anyone who wouldn't take their right-hand person from the team.

The third and last question is, who is the person you'd say oh-god-please-no!! Because with them, you surely wouldn't survive even a week.

If the facepalm comes, it comes here. Because if this name comes as quickly as the previous two - and in many cases yes, accompanied by a sigh, then there's work to do.

Of course, yes, the life of coaches is sometimes indeed a game and fairy tale, because I had a session where the leader talked to himself for six minutes afterward, and two weeks later, he fired the person from the company. Because for two years he wanted to, knew they weren't performing, knew they were harmful, knew they were destroying the team. But now, as he imagined them beside him in a spacesuit, it hit him how nonsensical it was that he wouldn't last two days locked up with them, he trusts them so little, yet keeps them here for some reason. Out of cowardice, as he put it, and yes, it was a correct realization then.

But whatever the reason is, for that person whose name gets on paper within two seconds, no matter if they are in the space travelers or in the absolutely-not-with column, you can work with it.

Why do you trust them, what did they do to earn it?

Would they choose you too?

Why, what have you done for them?

Would you have written their name on paper two years ago?

Will you write it two years from now?

And the one with whom you definitely wouldn’t go, would they go with you?

Is there work to do with this?

Most of the time, you don’t even need questions.

But really, who would you take with you?